Thursday, April 27, 2017

W is for Wherever You Are, Take Who You Are With You

I thought it would be easier to manage my natural locks while on vacation, by doing a protective style to keep it covered. I thought it would be much simpler to not have to touch my hair with kinky twists in my hair. So, a few days before I left to go on a lengthy travel scape, I went to the salon and had the stylist add some twists. 

It actually was not easier though I found ways to keep it looking fresh. The braids were heavy and tight. They need to be moisturized a lot in order for them not to just fall out of your hair and pull healthy hair out with it. I had to find creative ways to sleep with them without them hurting or irritating my scalp.  

I wanted to wear upsweeps with the long dresses and it did work in many fashions but, I must say, I missed my fro. 

I guess it is true when they say that you take who you are and your individuality and originality with you, "Wherever You Are."

Check out the tune "Wherever You Are" written and produced by Stephanie Jeannot off the Finally JNote album on CDBaby. 

Monday, April 10, 2017

G and H are for Glamour Haute

It's the springtime. It's April and my A to Z writing challenge brings me to talk about fashion and style. 

I love Fashion. I love style. And I once thought that I was a very fashionable lady. 

It was at a family gathering where everybody was supposed to dress up with the most fabulous of the threads in their closets when my cousin busted my bubble.  Since I was a little girl, I was married to the idea that dresses were my best friend and so, I put a really, nice one on and was ready to go.

You have turned my mourning into 
joyful dancing.

You have taken away my clothes 
of mourning
and clothed my with joy
– (Psalm 30:11).

I got to the party and everybody was decked out. Men were in tuxes. The ladies were wearing beautiful dresses. And the kids, looking as fresh and clean as a congregation in any given church on Easter Sunday.

I thought I was dressed nice. Whenever I go shopping, I gravitate towards certain looks and feel really good about it when I take it home with me and am able to wear it for a night out. 

Such was the case that day. And then it happened. My cousin looked at me and said that I dress like an old lady. My sister said it too and the though stuck with me ever since; and so did the comments. They followed me everywhere I went with people telling me to dress a little younger and to look a little more sexy and my age.

I continued on with the styles I liked. I appreciated wearing dresses and would wear the ones that fit me nice and that had a unique pattern that was flattering to me.

Reality really clattered down on me the other day though. I was watching a news report on television which featured a crowd of elderly people celebrating at a party and there it happened. I saw the women wearing styles and dresses, similar to what I love to wear.

The observed is somewhat separate from that he sees
David Brooks

I once thought that I had a great eye for trends before but have I really been dressing a bit old for my age? Could it be the stores I was shopping at or simply the styles that were available to me that caught my attention? Should I have been that affected by the critical feedback I was given about how I dress? All I know is that ever since this new way of seeing myself popped its cherry, I have been a little bit more conscious and have been trying my best to shift things around. I mean, what better time than the springtime to try something different!

I won’t call it out with the old and in with the new because at the end of the day, I am still me and I feel comfortable wearing certain styles, including my hair as wild as it is without taming, combing or doing anything to it but letting it be; wet and go. This weekend however, I changed up my look and tried different styles which I never have, trying to apply a bit of a younger appeal. Here is a recap!

I tried ripped, skinny jeans with a floral jacket
and actually wore sexy heeled, open-toed mini boots
for an entire evening without taking out my backup flats that I usually wear.
The flower in my hair was in honor of Billie Holiday
who was known for wearing gardenias in her hair
and would have celebrated her 102nd birthday
this past weekend. 

Midi dress . It is somewhat fitted
and I am someone who enjoys a little room and loose-fitted gear.
I am a big teary-eyed person for flowers
and the flowers on it made me love this dress. 

Pinned up my hair on one side to tame the fro a bit. 

Normally I would see heels and say no.
I have to stand on stage with heels on for the duration of the time.
But I love the multi-colored style.
Nice heels. Nice strap. 

I am used to dresses that hit just past the knee most of the time
and rarely ever have my shoulders out
but I thought that this was 
such a pretty pattern for spring and tried it.
Very flattering! 
Two corn twists with a bang to compliment the dress.  

In life, shift happens. Thank God that my family, though their shared opinion was harsh, affected me positively. "I am Changing"  in every way. 

Friday, April 7, 2017

F is for Frolicious

Sometimes I just want to let my curls run wild and free

because that is the way they out to be.

Right after my condition wash

and blotted dry;

sometimes it’s best to condition

and then let my Haitian curls fly.

Nothing wrong with being Latino me

and framing my face with my curls.

Nothing wrong

with loving

and being free to be naturally me

considering I am a royal girl. 

 I was born this way

and though it may

have taken a while

to understand

this daughter of a king's profile,

no perm was needed

to be beautifully


For what’s the use of trying to be

somebody else?

I was wonderfully made

individually and yet culturally chained

to my nappy roots, to my caramel skin

to the Afrocentric

elements that I was Americanly, born with. 

I am a naturalista 

and love it.

Black and beautifully blessed. 


And still learning who I am, along this life quest. 

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