Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Pre-Conditioned, Cut and Banged

After noticing my hair's problem area when trying to create "fake bangs" that seemed to not be working at all lately, I decided to do a pre-treatment that I uniquely tailor-made. 

I left in my hair under a clear plastic shower cap and scarf for about five hours before I washed it out, shampooed my hair and did a conditioner. I then metamorphosed into a woman with real cut bangs by using my own scissors to cut them.


So here is what I put into the treatment that I made

¼ cup of fresh aloe

1 plain yogurt

1 half cup almond milk
1 egg
1 tbsp coffee

1/4 cup water
1/4 cup castor oil

I added these ingredients into my juicer and let it blend until liquefied. After that, I put the concoction into the microwave, warmed it for a minute and then it was ready for application. 

I parted my hair in four and applied to each section as I would a perm, only this has no chemicals; it’s all-natural stuff that could be found in the produce section of a grocery store; minus the castor oil. And I must say it worked pretty well. 

My hair is softer, more manageable and not as much hair came out after the shampoo process, when conditioned and used the shower comb to comb it through the shaft and to the ends. And so I have to say that the pre-conditioner idea was remarkably successful and I can’t help but to smile about it. So if you ever wondered about pre-conditioning and if it is worth it, I would say that I am now unanimously in favor of it.  


After I wash and condition my hair, I usually take an old t-shirt to wrap my hair in, to take out some of the moisture before using a leave-in conditioner. I then part my hair and add pure shea butter to each section prior to twisting it. Only this time while twisting, I used my hair scissors to cut some bangs before twisting it towards the front with hopes that it would lay flat which has been the problem that I have been having for the last few months.

I usually keep my hair in twists, all except for when I am going out somewhere where I want my hair to look cute, like for live musical performances. But this time, I kept my hair twisted for a few days, wearing my protective style under wigs that I used to wear at my most recent musical performance, before I unraveled my hair to see how the bangs actually looked.


Somebody told me that it is good to add oil to your twists before unraveling. 

The first time I ever tried it, my hair was so greasy that every time I hugged someone, there was an oil trail left on them. Did somebody say, jerry curl juice?

I realized I was doing it wrong because I might have been putting way too much oil at this point and I had to get better at trying to keep my hair healthy and not drying out so fast since oil can moisturize and then dry your hair out because of its need for water.

This time, I applied the oil not teach strand but to the whole head before unraveling and the results were much better. The curls were crinkly and soft and fell just the way I wanted them to.

I will admit that I had to become as bold as a lion to take scissors and try cutting my own hair which has become my thing, all of a sudden. But it seems to be a stride in the right direction because finally, the problem area I once had, is not as bad anymore. I also noticed how healthy and soft my hair has become. I have real bangs that are not so unruly anymore. If you ever have the temptation of cutting your hair and you are not sure, it might what be just what your hair is in need of. So, don’t hesitate to do it. It was totally worth it.  

Thursday, March 8, 2018

Natural Hair Question: How do you rule the unruly part of your hair?

Natural Hair Question: How do you rule the unruly part of your hair?

Thank God for water because I was able to use it to slick my hair that never seems to want to lay flat down in my “bangs” area after I twist out my hair.

I even put a roller on while I was driving thinking I could curl my “bang” and hopefully it wouldn’t stick out in the most awkward place; always; nowhere else does it do that.

Does this happen to anyone else? I thought I was past my awkward hair moment for a minute after 4 years of letting go of perms and going back to natural.

I started cutting all my hair off and I used to condition wash my hair every day and go. I finally stopped doing that last year. I haven’t used heat in my hair in a year and a half almost. And just when I thought I had my hair down to a science and after cutting my own hair again, here we are with the same unruly piece that won't stay ruled unless I keep it twisted. 

What do you use to keep your twistout laying flat? Is it in the twisting itself that makes a difference? Or maybe the unraveling of them?

Questions! Questions!

Other than that. Thank God for melted snow everywhere, even though it’s kind of wet outside, but it was a good day, I love that black dress and I write in Brooklyn. Can't go wrong with that. So blessed to even be able to hold up a pen with my hand. 

And so happy everything worked out  for me and my little pompom; although I styled my twistout bang and pom pom with a bang like I had in the past, I thought I could have again. Yet, it wasn't so bad. 

Does that mean I have to actually cut a bang? 

I wonder how that would look on me with my natural hair.  
Any Suggestions?

Thursday, August 24, 2017

The Naturalist Art of Emily Dupervil

Beauty is said to be in the eye of the beholder. What is beauty? I think each person holds within their heart, their own standard of pulchritude.

I realized it just a few years back that it is not as important to follow trends and to do what everybody else is doing to be a part of the amalgamation of what the world’s definition of being beautiful is. It depends on you as a person and your own faith system.  Hair has often been a discussion of beauty and the length and texture are often viewed as determinants of the standard.

“When everybody paints with lime green,
lime green no longer stands out”
– Chip Heath

Yet, there are those who go against the ideology and still do their own thing and every naturalista has their own story. My reason for cutting my hair off was done from an emotional standpoint. But that is not how every natural beauty started off their journey. Each afrolicious being has a different reason why.  For 17 years old Emily Dupervil who had perms when younger, she came to a point in her life when she decided to cut all her hair off and to just do the natural thing.

Being a Naturalista 

Anyone who has done the big chop will admit that their natural hair journey has been interesting. They either love their decision or quickly cave in and go back to the chemical treatments, which is not wrong. People do what makes them happy and that is the most important thing about life. Do what makes you individually you. I will admit that when I did it, I got many compliments but also many inquiries from folks asking me why I didn’t do something else or telling me that I look better with straight hair. 

Yet, the journey is never about anybody else but about how we as individuals feel about ourselves. I love natural hair and I think it is so beautiful to be able to feel whole in your own skin.

“Show up in your life exactly as God intended you to be
– standing in truth, light and love”
 – Nikki Giovanni

When you see Dupervil, you see a young and confident New York city teenager vibrating her wonderfully made features. Not only does she reflect it just by being uniquely who she is on a daily basis, but also through her art. 

She captures the beauty of her blackness with brilliant art pieces created by the work of her own hands. She may be only 17 but she is vivaciously creative, she is so very intelligent and she is emotionally and spiritually connected to art.

Dupervil started drawing as a kid on the train. She enjoyed it so much that the magnetic pull of love for art made her decide to embrace it in a bigger way by taking art classes. In many of her art pieces, she highlights the vivacious beauty of the naturalists such as would many of Haiti’s popular art which embody images of the black experience.

“An aim in life is the only fortune worth finding;
and it is not to be found in foreign lands;
but in the heart itself”
– Robert Louis Stevenson

The Haitian-American young lady stays motivated by listening to Gospel songs like Marvin Sapp's “Never Would Have Made It” and Kirk Franklin’s “Wanna Be Happy” while brushing on a rainbow of passion onto a canvas, with a beauty that translates through art, the pulchritudinous person she is; inside and out. She experiments with acrylic, water colors and more. She expresses her passions in her Springfield Gardens dwelling place and also for school and plans to take on art more seriously by pursuing it as a collegiate focus.

Look out for the beautiful masterpieces of artisan, Emily Dupervil, because I am pretty sure the more that she has to share will one day woo the masses. This skilled warrior moved me already! 

Thursday, April 27, 2017

W is for Wherever You Are, Take Who You Are With You

I thought it would be easier to manage my natural locks while on vacation, by doing a protective style to keep it covered. I thought it would be much simpler to not have to touch my hair with kinky twists in my hair. So, a few days before I left to go on a lengthy travel scape, I went to the salon and had the stylist add some twists. 

It actually was not easier though I found ways to keep it looking fresh. The braids were heavy and tight. They need to be moisturized a lot in order for them not to just fall out of your hair and pull healthy hair out with it. I had to find creative ways to sleep with them without them hurting or irritating my scalp.  

I wanted to wear upsweeps with the long dresses and it did work in many fashions but, I must say, I missed my fro. 

I guess it is true when they say that you take who you are and your individuality and originality with you, "Wherever You Are."

Check out the tune "Wherever You Are" written and produced by Stephanie Jeannot off the Finally JNote album on CDBaby. 

Monday, April 10, 2017

G and H are for Glamour Haute

It's the springtime. It's April and my A to Z writing challenge brings me to talk about fashion and style. 

I love Fashion. I love style. And I once thought that I was a very fashionable lady. 

It was at a family gathering where everybody was supposed to dress up with the most fabulous of the threads in their closets when my cousin busted my bubble.  Since I was a little girl, I was married to the idea that dresses were my best friend and so, I put a really, nice one on and was ready to go.

You have turned my mourning into 
joyful dancing.

You have taken away my clothes 
of mourning
and clothed my with joy
– (Psalm 30:11).

I got to the party and everybody was decked out. Men were in tuxes. The ladies were wearing beautiful dresses. And the kids, looking as fresh and clean as a congregation in any given church on Easter Sunday.

I thought I was dressed nice. Whenever I go shopping, I gravitate towards certain looks and feel really good about it when I take it home with me and am able to wear it for a night out. 

Such was the case that day. And then it happened. My cousin looked at me and said that I dress like an old lady. My sister said it too and the though stuck with me ever since; and so did the comments. They followed me everywhere I went with people telling me to dress a little younger and to look a little more sexy and my age.

I continued on with the styles I liked. I appreciated wearing dresses and would wear the ones that fit me nice and that had a unique pattern that was flattering to me.

Reality really clattered down on me the other day though. I was watching a news report on television which featured a crowd of elderly people celebrating at a party and there it happened. I saw the women wearing styles and dresses, similar to what I love to wear.

The observed is somewhat separate from that he sees
David Brooks

I once thought that I had a great eye for trends before but have I really been dressing a bit old for my age? Could it be the stores I was shopping at or simply the styles that were available to me that caught my attention? Should I have been that affected by the critical feedback I was given about how I dress? All I know is that ever since this new way of seeing myself popped its cherry, I have been a little bit more conscious and have been trying my best to shift things around. I mean, what better time than the springtime to try something different!

I won’t call it out with the old and in with the new because at the end of the day, I am still me and I feel comfortable wearing certain styles, including my hair as wild as it is without taming, combing or doing anything to it but letting it be; wet and go. This weekend however, I changed up my look and tried different styles which I never have, trying to apply a bit of a younger appeal. Here is a recap!

I tried ripped, skinny jeans with a floral jacket
and actually wore sexy heeled, open-toed mini boots
for an entire evening without taking out my backup flats that I usually wear.
The flower in my hair was in honor of Billie Holiday
who was known for wearing gardenias in her hair
and would have celebrated her 102nd birthday
this past weekend. 

Midi dress . It is somewhat fitted
and I am someone who enjoys a little room and loose-fitted gear.
I am a big teary-eyed person for flowers
and the flowers on it made me love this dress. 

Pinned up my hair on one side to tame the fro a bit. 

Normally I would see heels and say no.
I have to stand on stage with heels on for the duration of the time.
But I love the multi-colored style.
Nice heels. Nice strap. 

I am used to dresses that hit just past the knee most of the time
and rarely ever have my shoulders out
but I thought that this was 
such a pretty pattern for spring and tried it.
Very flattering! 
Two corn twists with a bang to compliment the dress.  

In life, shift happens. Thank God that my family, though their shared opinion was harsh, affected me positively. "I am Changing"  in every way. 

Friday, April 7, 2017

F is for Frolicious

Sometimes I just want to let my curls run wild and free

because that is the way they out to be.

Right after my condition wash

and blotted dry;

sometimes it’s best to condition

and then let my Haitian curls fly.

Nothing wrong with being Latino me

and framing my face with my curls.

Nothing wrong

with loving

and being free to be naturally me

considering I am a royal girl. 

 I was born this way

and though it may

have taken a while

to understand

this daughter of a king's profile,

no perm was needed

to be beautifully


For what’s the use of trying to be

somebody else?

I was wonderfully made

individually and yet culturally chained

to my nappy roots, to my caramel skin

to the Afrocentric

elements that I was Americanly, born with. 

I am a naturalista 

and love it.

Black and beautifully blessed. 


And still learning who I am, along this life quest. 

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Wednesday, February 22, 2017

To Blow Dry or Not to Blow Dry. . . That is the Question!

When I first did the big chop, I did it based off emotion, though I had already stopped perming but at that moment, my hair didn’t matter to me whether it was long or short and so, I just went with cutting it all off and started again from scratch.

Photo by Linda A Strobert

It was easy then for me to just wash and go and that was my thing. Then I stopped shampooing so much, yet still used conditioner on a daily basis during my morning routine. I had no hair and so, I had no reason to use heat products in it. Trying to blow dry or even curl my locks would have been crazy because it was too short to even section with a comb.

Then my hair started growing a little bit and so, every four months or so, I would head on over to the salon to get a deep treatment and professional blow dry. I don't do anything strenuous on my own. Everything other than washes, co-washes and picking my hair out are done at the salon. They straightened my hair a few times since I cut it and it always looked so beautiful. Yet, from 2015 to 2016, I started leaving the heat alone and only blow dried my hair once and I decided to keep that as a routine; once a year or less.

Once a year? Why?

The last time I blow dried my hair, it looked pretty but started to dry out quickly and smelled burnt; even after I washed it twice afterwards, the burnt smell lingered. I think that is why it took such a long time to blow dry it again. But three months later, some of my hair is still straight from when my stylist used the heat in my hair and I can’t figure out why I lost the beautiful curl pattern that I used to have prior to that day. 

Still conditioning almost every day but I increased my shampooing a little bit because I am thinking and hoping that my curls will somehow come back to the way they were, unless blow drying stretches it and the hair just becomes longer and straighter over time when you do it; I am not sure.  

And so, when Influenster sent me the Glam Vox Box and it had Shea Moisture products in it, I was thrilled because I am familiar with the brand and tried their products many times. This particular one that I got free was Shea Argan Oil Shampoo, Shea Argan Blow Out Creme Conditioner and a coupon to purchase from their line whenever I run out of products; which is quite often for me being that I co-wash almost every day.

Wash and Co-Wash

So I got in the shower and shampooed with the argan oil, which I noticed was nice and creamy. It lathered my hair and made my locks and my scalp feel nice and clean. 

I followed with Herbal Essence Totally Twisted Curly Conditioner, left it on my hair for about five minutes and it added extra moisture to my curly afro. I will say that I have no real preference for conditioner because I find something beneficial in almost all of them. I use inexpensive. I use expensive. I use non-organic. I use organic. I use sulfate and paraben free and I also use with sulfates and paraben though I prefer the former. I usually go for what is on sale and then there are times when I just go for a specific product. And so, I have tried products from the Shea Moisture line many times before and liked it. Sometimes I  use L'Oreal or Suave. It depends on the day and my mood. But, I still haven't found that one must use everyday product. But I will! 

After Wash

I dried off some of the excessive water in my hair with an old tee-shirt. I find a regular towel to be harsh on hair and so, I use an old shirt or a hair scarf to dry it. 

I started clipping my ends with a hair scissor on days that I use shampoo and so, I clipped my ends before applying moisturizer. Since I do not use heat in my hair and usually let my hair air dry all but the once a year that I am switching to, I applied the blow-out crème to my hair anyway which I found to moisten my hair really well.  It did not build up in any one area at all. It felt clean in my hair and brightened up the dullness of it.

I feel that if this product protects from heat and heat damage, that maybe it will repair it as well. It has marshmallow extract & cherimaya. It is said to improve style, control and speed. I love that it contains organic shea butter, argan oil and almond milk. The protein factor strengthens. It has no sulfates, no parabens and it is a great product for my natural hair. So I will add it to the list of the many products that I use and can’t wait to take advantage of my coupon on my next shopping trip.

So tell me . . .

Do you think that my hair is heat damaged and is it repairable? Is it normal for your hair to be straight in some places and curly in others? What are you using that might benefit my hair? What is your hair routine? Please share!  

Disclaimer: I am not employed by Shea Moisture and will not be compensated for writing this blog post. I however,did receive the product free to try and to share my thoughts on a separate app than this blog. These are my real thoughts, unguided or scripted based on my usage of the complimentary items received.