Saturday, July 2, 2016

Threes an Awkward Stage and a Protective Style

I never considered wearing a wig until I found out that it could serve as a protective style.

I am into my third year of going back to natural. I did the big chop in June of 2013 and three years later, I have come into this awkward hair state where I am finding it really difficult to maintain it. Not sure why, except I know that the every day co-washes that I used to do is not working for me anymore. My bantu knot twist outs are not even falling like they used to. I am having 99 hair problems but the texture ain't one of them because I still love being natural.

I considered braiding but I have extremely thin sides and I tried doing just one single braid in my hair when I was in the midst of my second year and it hurt my scalp more than hair pins digging into it. So not sure the braiding thing would do me so well.

And so, I have been trying on a few lovely hats lately as my new protective style over my corn twists.



Okay you got me. By hats, I mean wigs!
What do you think? Any other suggestions?
Leave a comment. Naturalistas; HELP!!!

Sunday, June 26, 2016

All I see is Curls, Curls, Curlsfest

Nothing like a party to celebrate the beautiful naturalists in the world. Nothing like a team no lye fiesta situated in the naturally beautiful expanse of Prospect Park in Brooklyn, NY.

All I saw was kinky curls. All I saw was healthy natural hair. And all day it was a day of giveaways, dancing in the summer heat, hair samples and showcasing of products made for and by afrolicious people.

What am I clamoring about?
 The 2016, annual Curlfest. It happened on June 26th, 2016 in Brooklyn's Prospect Park and guests were welcomed by a wealth of companies who have product lines that target people who are happy to be nappy; such as Curlfriends, Dove, Shea moisture, Ouidad, and dark & lovely, just to name a few.

If you were not on a line getting one of the large free bags of hair products, soaps and lotions, you might have been participating in natural hair styling demonstrations, doing some of the line dances, coloring the free coloring pages with your kids or watching the tom-tom crew dancing and drumming in the summer heat.

It was a free event which was open to the general public and was such a nice thing to see naturalistas exposing their true natural beauty without borders.


Disclaimer: I will not be compensated for naming any of the companies involved in this event. I am not a promoted nor will I gain anything for posting in regards to this annual event. I am a naturalist who likes to share information to the natural hair community that may be vital to their natural hair journeys. 

Friday, May 6, 2016

Three Years since the Big Chop

Photo by Linda A Strobert






I can't believe it is coming up on three 


years since I did the


big chop and went back to natural.


Three years later, I think I 


want to go back to that day. 






Was so much easier and my hair was 


at its healthiest ever; 


not that it is not healthy now, three years later, but . . . 





Photo by Raymond C Lynch



now it is like, what do I 


do with it, trying to figure it out but . . . 


still prefer natural 


hair over getting the chemical burns 


on my scalp every other month. 







But this is my natural hair journey! 

Care to share with me yours? 

I want to know your tips, 

the products you use and your experiences. 

Comment on this blogpost 

or email melodstephie@gmail.com

Friday, April 22, 2016

L is for Love Your Natural Curls like Ellen Osei Does

Naturalistas! Love your Hair. It's ours. It's beautiful! It's a natural thing!

For instance, this natural sistah, Ellen Osei from Montclaire, NJ got into the swing of things when she realized that perming no longer suited who she was as an individual.  



She decided to go back to natural in 2009 because she wanted to be comfortable with her hair after finding out the horrible effects of perming and has been happy with it ever since. 

How does she maintain her hair?




Osei uses water and sunflower oil to moisturize her hair which is perfect for her thick, natural curls. Her go to style is the kinky curly knot. She co-washes once a week and shampoos as needed. 

Like fine wine, she gets better with her hair everyday, keeping it beautiful while working as an occupational therapist. This 29 year old lady, is also the co-founder of Raising Hope and the founder of Class (Circle of Ladies Above Societal Standards) Management which is a mentoring and management network for women and aspiring leaders. 

Natural hair for a naturally strong woman! Gotta love it! 

Saturday, March 26, 2016

YWC-A-Fro

New York City 16 year old, Diana Crooke rocks the most amazing fro.

 



Her natural hair is big, healthy and shiny. Asked this young lady how she got her hair to that state and she said, "I never had a perm but had heat damage from blow drying, curling and straightening all the time. My ends were fried and so, I chopped off my hair and started new. I have not used any heat or straightening products in my hair for over a year."

Crooke cowashes once a week and shampoos once a month. To moisturize, she uses Shea butter and coconut oil. 

I have to say I am very inspired by this promising naturalista who not only maintains and keeps her natural hair growing long and strong but on the side is part of a YWCA program trying to eliminate racism. 



Thank you Miss Crooke. I am now a fan! 

Thursday, March 17, 2016

I Rock Rough and Tough With My Afro Puffs

I remember when the artist Rage was "rockin' rough and tough with Afro puffs" that I used to love back in the days and now I rock my own. 


Who knew just putting your hair in two was stretching your hair? Who knew Afro puffing could keep my hair free of those knot balls? I never expected to have my hair soft just by adding water and oil to my edges and ends. 

And I could sleep with my hair just like this without having to take my hair out and redo it. And believe it or not, adding a leave in and some Shea butter while wet was all it took. Retouching simply with water and oil at the edges and on my ends. I am loving this! My hair finally has the moisture it has been craving since I did the big chop almost three years ago. 

Friday, December 11, 2015

How R&B Singer Diamalai Keeps Her Afrolicious Hair Growing Fast & Healthy

“I love my hair because it’s a reflection of my soul. It’s dense, it’s kinky, it’s soft, it’s textured, it’s difficult, it’s easy and it’s fun. That’s why I love my hair.”
-Tracee Ellis Ross



My story

So many women have gone through the process of having their moms comb and treat their hair when young, perming at a young age and then deciding to no longer perm and start over to go back to natural.

Perming hair seems like such a simple solution with hair coming out straight and beautiful, being very manageable and sometimes easy to maintain. If you were like me, you probably found yourself at the salon every week or every other week, getting your hair done and then every month or so, going back to get a touch up.

But then came the days when you could not make it to the salon, trying your best to take care of your hair yourself and the touching up grew farther and farther apart and your hair may have been subject to breakage due to not taking care of your hair the way that you should or breaking due to over-processing, heat damage, etc.

After about 20 years of perming, I decided to go back to natural, stopped perming and then about six months after, cut all my hair off and started from scratch and over two years later, learning my hair and loving the journey.

Her Story

19 year old, R&B singer Diamalai from Queens, NY has been natural for about a year and four months since doing the big chop. This is her second attempt at going back to natural and trying to maintain healthy, natural hair and her hair has been growing very rapidly and healthily ever since.

Asked how she keeps her hair growing fast and healthy and she said “the co-wash is my best friend! Hair needs to be fed and given proper nutrition in order to grow. I sleep with pigtails to protect my ends and always keep my satin cap on.”  

She washes and goes quite often and said that “the wash and go isn't necessarily a bad thing for the natural hair but it is important to keep hair moisturized.

To stretch her either, she either blow dries (with heat protecting products) or does twist outs while hair is wet, lets it dry for the morning and then untwists, sets and then goes!



Learning your own hair is a process and a journey but if you are a natural hair lover like Diamalai, you learn to love and do what it takes to keep it healthy.